The Privilege of a Stay at Home Wife

For the last several years, I have had the privilege of being a stay at home wife (and dog mom)! This was never our plan, but military life and health issues led to this decision. And if I’m being honest, it took me a little while to truly see it as the blessing it is.

Before I jump into the reasons I love being a stay at home wife, let me say this: the role of a wife, whether working full-time, part-time, or from home, and whether or not you have kids, is a gift. As a Christian wife, we are called to a life of integrity and noble character. Proverbs 31, Titus 2 & Ephesians 5 discuss some of the attributes of a wife. We are to provide our husbands love, respect, help and devotion. Proverbs 31:11 says, “The heart of her husband safely trusts in her, and he will not lack any good thing.”

Now for a few thoughts on why I enjoy being a stay-at-home wife!

1. Home-Making

I love being home when Colten gets off work. I love providing a welcoming environment for him to come home to. I love having the time in my day to keep up with the house chores, grocery shop, and prepare meals. Now I realize that many ladies do all of this on top of working and that is amazing. But with my health issues, this allows me the energy to complete those things and have time to rest if needed.

I’m learning that even in the mundane, everyday tasks of life, I have the choice to honor the Lord or not. Elisabeth Elliot said, “To make any kind of service, no matter how menial, an offering to Him puts a whole new light on it.” And if I’m honoring the Lord, I will also be honoring my husband at the same time.

“To make any kind of service, no matter how menial, an offering to Him puts a whole new light on it.”

2. Slow mornings with Jesus

I have never been a morning person… I am a night owl through and through. But with the privilege of staying home, comes the privilege of slower mornings. And it’s become a favorite part of my day. I get my coffee (always, coffee) and I spend time with Jesus. I read and pray and then usually read some more. I start with the Bible, but then I also read whatever Christian living/spiritual growth book I am going through at that time. And the fact that I can do all of this without having to rush through for lack of time is a true blessing.

3. Opportunities to serve

Now I’ve already talked about the opportunity this provides me to serve my husband. But it also provides opportunity for me to serve outside of the home, too. Whether that is through the church, personal relationships, or in other areas. This year I’ve had the privilege of being the President for a ladies Bible study on our military base. It’s a pretty involved ministry and I absolutely love it. But I would not be able to commit and serve at this degree if I were working. I only pray the Lord continues to give me more opportunities to serve!

Those are just a few of the main reasons I see it as a privilege to be a stay-at-home wife. C.S. Lewis said, “Homemaking is surely in reality the most important work in the world. What do ships, railways, mines, cars, government, etc. exist for except that people may be fed, warmed, and safe in their own homes? The homemaker’s job is one for which all other’s exist.”

“Homemaking is surely in reality the most important work in the world. What do ships, railways, mines, cars, government, etc. exist for except that people may be fed, warmed, and safe in their own homes? The homemaker’s job is one for which all other’s exist.”

The reality is, whether we work or stay home, whether we are married or single… we are all home-makers in some way. And that’s a calling we should never take lightly! 🖤